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Radical Acceptance

Mar 23, 2020

There are times in life when it’s difficult to accept reality.  It’s human nature to refuse to accept pain or close ourselves off to the aspects of reality we don’t like or want. Sometimes we secretly hope that if we refuse to accept things as they are, they will change. From a Buddhist perspective, pain […]

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10 Tips for Coping with Working Remotely and Social Distancing

Mar 18, 2020

1. Build Structure. Lack of daily structure can be a set up for worry, anxiety and negative emotions. Create a schedule for your work days including the start and end of the workday, with set times for meals and planned breaks. Having a regular routine will help you to maintain a positive mindset, increase productivity […]

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Practice Noticing When You’re Wrong: Confirmation Bias

Mar 09, 2020

Our thoughts are not always facts. We’re all prone to errors or systematic biases in our thinking. As a result, our processing of information biased. For example, in depression and anxiety, thinking tends to be overly negative—little attention is paid to the positive and the neutral. One overarching thinking error is confirmation bias: we selectively […]

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What were your top 3 decisions of 2019?

Jan 06, 2020

With the end of the decade and the start of the new year, we tend to look back and assess the progress we’ve made towards our goals and set new ones. While this year-end review process has the potential to be positive and inspiring, it can also be negative and self-defeating.  As a result of […]

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No praise, no problem: develop your own performance standards

Nov 05, 2019

Everyone loves positive feedback. It feels good and often confirms your own assessment of your performance. You think you’ve done good job and now you know. When we were in school, we could use grades or the teachers’ comments as benchmarks for our performance. But there are times, in our work or personal life, where […]

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Stop Commoditizing Yourself

Oct 14, 2019

As a clinical psychologist, I work with many successful, divorced heterosexual men in their late 40s and early 50s who are dating and looking for love. For many, it’s the first time they’ve dated in 20 or more years. If you’re like many of my clients, you probably consider your wealth and professional success your […]

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Bringing the Ashram to You

Apr 04, 2019

Mindfulness is definitely a buzz word these days. It’s also a multi-billion dollar industry and everyone wants a piece of the action. As a result, there’s been a proliferation of mindfulness products and teachers which can be confusing for the consumer.  It’s conceptually very simple. Anyone who complicates or mystifies it either doesn’t know what […]

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Perfectionism

Mar 08, 2019

Are you a perfectionist? If so, you know first hand that it can be a double-edged sword. Having very high standards can optimize our performance at work and other areas of our lives. But, perfectionism can also lead to chronic dissatisfaction with achievements and fuel a sense we’re never good enough. It can also a […]

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What is Cognitive Therapy?

Mar 02, 2019

Maybe a friend’s recommended it or you’ve read about it in the New York Times. What is cognitive therapy any way and what’s all the hype about? Cognitive Therapy was created by University of Pennsylvania psychiatrist Aaron Beck in the 1960s. At the time it was created, cognitive therapy marked a radical departure from the […]

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