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Practice gratitude
Mar 30, 2020Even in the midst of the most challenging circumstances there are things and people in our lives to be grateful for. Through the practice of deliberately bringing our awareness to them, we can cultivate a mindset of gratitude. Gratitude can be a source of strength that helps us to better cope with challenging situations and […]
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Find your edge!
Mar 23, 2020All of us are stronger than we realize. We find ways to rise above challenges we never imagined facing. Our mental and physical strength are interconnected. When we practice doing things to build and test the limits of our physical endurance we can our increase mental stamina and resilience. In yoga, we call this “finding […]
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Radical Acceptance
Mar 23, 2020There are times in life when it’s difficult to accept reality. It’s human nature to refuse to accept pain or close ourselves off to the aspects of reality we don’t like or want. Sometimes we secretly hope that if we refuse to accept things as they are, they will change. From a Buddhist perspective, pain […]
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Practice Noticing When You’re Wrong: Confirmation Bias
Mar 09, 2020Our thoughts are not always facts. We’re all prone to errors or systematic biases in our thinking. As a result, our processing of information biased. For example, in depression and anxiety, thinking tends to be overly negative—little attention is paid to the positive and the neutral. One overarching thinking error is confirmation bias: we selectively […]
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Mindfulness in a crisis
Mar 04, 2020In the midst of a crisis, we’re driven to seek refuge—places of safety, peace and calm. But, for many of us, because of responsibilities in our daily lives, it’s not possible to escape the stressful situation we find ourselves in. The good news is that by practicing mindfulness you can create a refuge that’s always […]
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Want better relationships? Show interest
Feb 24, 2020So often in social situations we feel compelled to be interesting. We believe this is the way to draw others to us. And then, to see how effective our efforts are, we monitor others for signs of interest in US. But, the skill that’s actually needed to build and enhance relationships, whether romantic, professional or […]
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Don’t worry! Problem solve!
Feb 03, 2020Does your mind often leave the present moment and travel into the future anticipating negative events? Do you often feel anxious and restless, but have difficulty pinpointing why? If you answered yes, you may be a worrier. From a CBT perspective, worry is a mental habit or bias in thinking. It’s the tendency of your […]
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Give yourself a positive year-end review!
Jan 06, 2020nd With the end of the decade and the start of the new year, we tend to look back and assess the progress we’ve made towards our goals and set new ones. While this year-end review process has the potential to be positive and inspiring, it can also be negative and self-defeating. As a result […]
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No praise, no problem: develop your own performance standards
Nov 05, 2019Everyone loves positive feedback. It feels good and often confirms your own assessment of your performance. You think you’ve done good job and now you know. When we were in school, we could use grades or the teachers’ comments as benchmarks for our performance. But there are times, in our work or personal life, where […]
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Stop Commoditizing Yourself
Oct 14, 2019As a clinical psychologist, I work with many successful, divorced heterosexual men in their late 40s and early 50s who are dating and looking for love. For many, it’s the first time they’ve dated in 20 or more years. If you’re like many of my clients, you probably consider your wealth and professional success your […]
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